Only God can answer this question for you. He knows you and He knows the details of your marriage.
So as you skim online resources, read books, and maybe even reach out for counseling…please understand that the best thing you can do for your marriage is go to the One who designed and established marriage. Go to God in prayer and ask Him the questions you have about marriage…then take time to really listen. He may speak into your heart right away, He may use someone to point you in the right direction, He will definitely urge you to seek His Word…no matter what, be willing to listen.
As a wife, as one who loves God and serves Him passionately, as a person who genuinely cares about you even though we may have never met, I would love to encourage you in your marriage. I don’t know what God wants you to do about your marriage, but if you were in my living room crying because of your circumstance, I would sit beside you with my arm around you and speak the only truth I know…the truth of God’s Word. Then I would offer to pray with you.
I hope that this article inspires you to pray, and lifts your soul from whatever place you are in. I hope my words will act as arms to embrace you and comfort you, and as hands to lift you up and point you toward God!
God loves you very much.
So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him”. – 1 John 4:16
For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” – Romans 8:38-39
God wants you to seek reconciliation and peace.
Leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.” – Matthew 5:24
Strive for peace with everyone.” – Hebrews 12:14
God wants you to forgive.
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32
God wants you to repent and turn your heart toward Him.
Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.” – Matthew 3:2
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” – 1 John 1:9
But when one turns to the Lord, the veil is removed.Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.” – 2 Corinthians 3:16-18
God desires you to live a good life and to make wise decisions.
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.” – John 10:10
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.” – Proverbs 12:15
God wants you to pray without ceasing.
Rejoice always,pray without ceasing,give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
God wants you to trust in Him and His ways, not your own.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make straight your paths.” – Proverbs 3:5-6
God wants you to never be afraid.
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” – Isaiah 41:10
God desires you to have faith, to believe, to have confidence and hope.
And Jesus answered them, “Have faith in God.” – Mark 11:22
Therefore do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God you may receive what is promised.” – Hebrews 10:35-36
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.” – Romans 15:13
God wants you to love very much.
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him.In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us.
By this we know that we abide in him and he in us, because he has given us of his Spirit.And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God.So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.By this is love perfected with us, so that we may have confidence for the day of judgment, because as he is so also are we in this world. There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.We love because he first loved us.If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.” – 1 John 4:7-21
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogantor rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
I find the most comfort and the best guidance for every circumstance I face, in God’s Word. This is why I am sharing these scriptures with you. Stay strong, have faith, and seek God.
I pray for the person reading this right now. Please reveal great and mighty things to them. Please increase their faith, increase their hope, increase their confidence. I pray You would guide them and help them. Give them the answers they seek You for! Help them navigate through every circumstance. Draw them closely to You in Jesus’ name AMEN!
The next day I went to see my best friend and lawyer. I asked him about divorces and how they affected finances and assets. He walked me through matrimonial actions. Essentially, if I divorced her, my wife would get as much as half to keep her in the lifestyle to which she had become accustomed while married to me. Utter bollocks. He asked if everything was ok, I told him it was research for a new book. The protagonist was in a messy divorce and needed to figure out a legal way to leave his wife with nothing. He was intrigued.
He called me the next day. He’d found a way. It was complicated but it could work. The rules only apply to property or funds acquired during marriage. If the protagonist found a way to transfer it all to some trusted third party before the proceedings begun then there would be nothing for the Court to give her. He could always get it back afterwards.
I mulled it around in my head for almost a month. I called him and told him what I came up with. He said I was a bloody genius then made a few changes so it would be perfectly legal. I asked him to draft a sample for me and charge me for the work. He didn’t want to till I pointed out that the book might make millions. What are friends for? By now, our circle of friends was abuzz with the news that a new novel was in the works. Our circle of friends which included my wife’s lover and his wife who fortunately for me was a die-hard fan. Whenever we were at an event together, she would ask how the book was coming along, at first I would hedge and refuse to divulge any information then I began to feed her tidbits. Enough to make her look forward to our next meeting.
Six months after I caught my wife shagging her best friend, I bought my wife the new iPhone. It was customary. A new phone here, a new car there, diamonds and pearls every other month.
This was different. I had installed Google Latitude on the device and connected it to mine before handing it to her. I now knew everywhere the phone went and she was like a teenager with her phone, she never put it down.
For the next few months, I watched my wife diligently, electronically. Every Wednesday, she spent the afternoon at her lover’s house. Convenient. He ran a small web design firm out of his home. His wife was the money in the family. Some of the time, late on Fridays, she’d drive into odd addresses on the outskirts of Abuja, Bwari and Zuba predominantly. I had them checked out, Hotels.
The first time I left for the weekend, she stayed home. I told her my story was based in Lagos and I needed to be in the metropolis for inspiration. She tried to talk me out of it but drove me to the airport. I waited 15mins after passing airport security then got a Taxi to take me to Sheraton in Wuse. Her phone was in the house all weekend but he could have come over for all I knew. The business class ticket had cost me N30,000, the first of many.
I started to ‘visit Lagos’ every other week. Sometimes I would actually go for a day and take enough pictures for 2 or 3 and return to Abuja. It wasn’t till the 7th weekend that I made my move. I called her on Sunday morning. I didn’t let her talk, she didn’t try. I told her I was in a cab on my way home, I was sure she was in church so I didn’t ask her to come pick me. I had missed her loads. I was 2 houses away. His black Honda Accord sped past in less than 5 minutes.
Men are always curious as to what parts of a woman’s body is the most sensitive to touch; well fellas, today is your lucky day as science has confirmed the spots women are most sensitive to.
Canadian scientists did a research to figure out which parts of a woman’s body are the most erogenous. The researchers studied 3o healthy women between the ages of 18 and 35, undressed and lay on a table covered in a bed sheet, used light touch, pre$$ure and vibration to assess how sensitive women’s’ cl!t0r1s, labia minora, v@g!n@l margin, @n@l margin, lateral br3@st (side b**b), areola (the small ring of skin surrounding the n!pple), n!pple, neck and forearm area.
They applied $t!mul@t!0n for 1.5 seconds, and waited for five seconds before asking the women if they felt it.
The research which was published in the Journal of $*xu@l Medicine found out these three as the most sensitive areas:
#1. For a light touch the neck, forearm, and v@ginal margin are the most sensitive areas, and the areola is the least sensitive.
#2. For pressure, the cl!toris and nipple are the most sensitive, and the side b**b and abdomen are the least.
#3. The cl!toris and n!pple are the most sensitive to vibration.
Another interesting thing they found was that the genital area was more sensitive to pressure than light touch.
However, the researchers say that understanding these sensitive areas is useful knowledge for bre@st augmentation and gender reassignment surgery.
Did you know that úrinating right after having s3x, especially for men, can flush those germs out?
These days, it’s not abnormal to learn that someone has an STD. In fact, even celebrities have STD-s! I recently posted a blog on celebrities and STD-s. Most of them had herpes and one of them had Hepatitis. Sure, some of you may know these 7 facts on STD-s, but there are others, younger people, that are just starting out and may be in need of some facts, so this is more for them…
7. LIMIT THE NUMBER OF S3X-UAL PARTNERS
Sure, this may sound like common sense, but again, the younger generation probably needs to be told this. Having s3x-ual contact with only one individual is going to limit your chances of getting an STD. Be clear about the expectations of the relationship and make sure they are not sleeping with others. If it is an open relationship, then your chances of getting an STD will increase, even if you were not the one to have s3x with the person who was infected (your partner did).
6. DON’T BE AFRAID TO LOOK!
Before you engage in s3x-ual activity, it is perfectly normal to look! In fact, do it! Don’t be afraid to do it. Look for suspicious rashes, sores or discharge. Discuss it with the partner. Remember, an STD may not show signs at all times.
5. THE BEST WAY TO PROTECT YOU AND YOUR PARTNER FROM GETTING AN STD WILL INVOLVE A LATEX CD
The condom is going to give an effective barrier against STD. Make sure it is properly removed when you are all done with your business.
4. URINATÉ RIGHT AFTER S3X-UAL ACTIVITY
Did you know that úrinating right after having s3x, especially for men, can flush those germs out? So, you may want to start doing this!
3. IF YOU ARE S3X-UALLY ACTIVE, THEN MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A REGULAR STD CHECKUP
Ask your doctor for specific tests for those common STD-s. This includes chlamydia and genital warts. These tests may not be a part of routine checkups.
2. IF YOU GET INFECTED, YOU NEED TO TELL YOUR S3X-UAL PARTNER
When you have learned that you are infected by an STD, it is important that you tell your partner. This way, they will go in for proper tests and early treatment. This will also help avoid infecting others or each other.
1. A FACT ON CHLAMYDIA
You will generally get Chlamydia symptoms seven to twenty one days after exposure. Often times, women may not have symptoms, but they may find it painful when úrinating. They may also have vaginal discharge that is discolored. Men may have an inflamed urethra.
There you have 7 facts on STD-s. It is always good to go over the facts and become more aware of these problems. Preventing them is a must. If you want to tell us about an STD you have, then you can. Maybe you will open the eyes of youngsters and show them that it is real! What is your experience?
I don’t just like it, I prefer a nice hairy valva. When I was a bit younger I thought I preferred a w0men to be clean shaven or at least trimmed up very neatly. I think these thoughts came from watching p0rn and also dating many gals and it seeming to be the accepted norm. As time has gone on I’ve found that I much prefer a nice hairy pu$$y to a waxed or clean shaven one.
I think hairless has many negatives. A women ends up looking like a little girl which is just wrong to me, a woman is constantly hassled with maintaining something that is unnecessary, when the stubble comes back it’s the worst for man and woman, and many more…
A hairy valva has many positives. It looks s3xier as nature intended, it feels good and is sensual as it rubs on my face, nose etc., it seems to hold in and magnify the amazing scent, it also feels better and improves the sensation and feeling during 1ntercourse.
I would say my favorite is a nice hairy bush up top, and then trimmed just slightly as you go down and a tidied up and shaved bikini line. I still like a lady to look feminine and s3xy and going down on a full blown Chewbacca with major growth sneaking out her penties every which way is a bit much, even for me
All of these comments apply to a woman which I am attracted to and there is chemistry; some women’s scent does not do it for me at all and there are others that smell like absolute heaven to me.
You may be putting yourself in serious danger each time you take your phone to the toilet. Experts have now found reasons why you should not take your phone to the toilet.
Taking a newspaper into the toilet is so 20th century. These days, people are more likely to flick through their newsfeed.
We all do it sometimes (admit it) even though it’s obvious sitting and scrolling isn’t the most hygienic activity. But it is really that bad? We asked three scientists about the dangers, and how to reduce the risk of picking up harmful bacteria.
Firstly, the bad news. It is a pretty minging habit, and you could be exposing yourself and others to germs like salmonella, E. Coli and C. Difficile by using your phone in the loo.
The main worry is if you wipe yourself, touch the flush or the lock then touch the phone without washing your hands (and as you need to carry it out the cubicle, that could happen quite easily.) But even just leaving it on the side could expose it to dangerous bugs. Uh oh.
You can protect yourself, though.
If you don’t want to give up those precious moments of ‘me time’, just be sensible about it.
Hygiene expert Dr Lisa Ackerley told Metro you could do a risk assessment (stay with us).
‘Read the book or phone in your right hand, then transfer it to the left,’ she said. ‘Wipe with your right, flush with the right, carry the book or phone out in your left hand without touching anything else and then wash your hands. Be aware of what your hands are touching.’
‘If you wipe your bum then pick up your phone, you may as well not bother washing your hands because all the bacteria you put on your phone will end up back on your hands,’ Dr Ackerley said. They might be your germs. They might be somebody else’s from the flush.’
Dr Ron Cutler, director of biomedical science degrees at Queen Mary’s University London, said: ‘Basically, you just shouldn’t (take your phone into the toilet) if you are at all concerned about the transfer of viruses and fecal contamination.’
He said that levels of contamination vary widely depending on where the toilet is. A small office may not be a problem, but a hospital or a cruise ship where viruses may be circulating are different.
Using it in your own bathroom isn’t too bad as you can’t get ill from your own fecal bacteria (but you could make someone else ill).
Taking it into a public bathroom risks lots of other germs floating around.
Are bugs just transferred by hands? That is the main way, but not the only way.
'pray could travel around six feet from the flush,’ Dr Ackerley said. That’s why you shouldn’t leave your toothbrush close to the toilet.
Theoretically, you could flush the toilet and tiny droplets could drift up and land on your phone, or on a surface your phone might touch.
If the toilet has a lid, put it down before you flush
For this reason, it’s best not to put your phone down on the toilet roll holder or any shelf that might be there.
Instead, put it back in your pocket or inside your bag when it’s time to clean yourself – but make sure the bag is on a hook rather than the floor.
How long could my phone be contaminated?
Germs could survive up to a couple of days on your phone.
'Phones heat up a little bit giving bacteria a nice warm environment,’ Dr Ron Cutler said. ‘If people handle sweets and leave a sticky coating on the phone, that’s an even better place for bacteria.
‘The levels are, generally speaking, quite small. But you can contaminate your hands pretty badly without trying too hard.’
Should I just get a decontamination suit? Val Curtis, director of the Environmental Health Group at London School of Hygeine and Tropical Medicine, said she didn’t think using phones on the loo is SUCH a problem.
I would say you can carry on. ‘It’s important to get in perspective that there are germs everywhere’, she told Metro. ‘The question is really, ‘Could it make someone else sick?’
As you can’t get ill from your own germs, you won’t be in danger of passing yourself a bug from your own fecal matter. But you could pass it to someone else who borrows your phone – or you could pick up someone else’s bug from, say, the flush or the cubicle lock.
Dr Curtis said we risk getting obsessed with cleanliness and worrying so much we harm ourselves – when the real thing we need to worry about is dirty hands, not dirty phones.
So basically, don’t forget the soap and water and you should be fine.